In a marriage, 2 become 1. You will consider doing a lot of things with your partner. Marriage can bring positive and negative effects to your life. Many are getting excited with it before thinking what will happen to them in the future because it is fun and you’ll be with the love of your life. There is a saying that marriage consists three rings: engagement ring,wedding ring, and suffering. A lot of people agree with that. Of course all of us want a happy family. If you want to have a healthy marriage, we have here a list of things you need to consider before getting married.
- Financially stable
Many couples nowadays fight because of money. That‘s why it is important that you both have enough savings for the future use on both parties.
- Right age
Some say that there is no “right” age in getting married. But getting married when you are in the age of 25 and above will decrease the chances of divorce or having a bad relationship because they say that it is the age where we realize a lot of things and we became mature.
- You both love each other
Take a deep breath and think about this. Do you really love him? Do you really love her? Both of you should feel that you really really really love your partner. If it is one-sided love, don’t get into marriage because it will just be unfair and it will bring a lot of heartaches to your partner.
- Stable career
One should have a stable career or both of you. It is a must because there will be a lot of expenses that you’ll pay since both of you are being independent from your parents; and also for your children in the future.
- Savings for wedding
Both of you should have a savings for your wedding day. There will be a lot to pay if you want a wedding that everyone will remember.
- You have a place to live in
After the wedding, where will both of you live? You should have your own house or renting a house, or maybe a rent to own before the wedding.
- Make sure your parents approves
Both of you should get a close relationship with both of your parents. Why? It is simply because they will be a part of your family. Your partner’s parents will be your second parents.
- Know your partner more
Before taking a stable step like getting married, work on the life you have together and discuss what challenges you foresee in the future and make a plan on how to overcome it.
- Children
How many children you want in the future? You should settle this before getting into marriage. It is important for you to be ready for their future.
- Are you a jealous person?
If you think you are a jealous person, you should start getting rid of it. Jealousy will only bring a lot of fights and can bring damage to your relationship.
- Plan for the future
Plan what you want to do and to have in the future with your partner especially if you are planning to have kids. Dreaming and planning will improve your communication with each other.
- Less time with friends
Get ready because after marriage especially after having kids, you will have less time with your friends. Yes. There will be conflicts, and your free time will decrease.
- You’ll be busier
It is true that you’ll be busier. Living alone with your partner or living together with your kids will bring a lot of stress. You’ll be working harder for the present and for the future.
- Health condition
You should think about this before marriage. If you have a severe disease, of course you don’t want your partner to have the same disease, right? Your children can acquire your disease also. So, before getting into marriage, consider being fit and healthy.
- Time to be more mature
You should be matured enough when getting into marriage. Marriage is not a play time but a serious matter. If you think you are not mature enough, then take time for it to be developed.
- Less quality time for yourself
After wedding, as I said a while ago that you’ll be busier. You will be giving a lot of your attention to your partner and to your future kids.
- Religion
It is important to talk about religion before marriage. If you have different religions, you’ll be having arguments if you will not accept each other’s religion and opinions. It is better if you will respect each other and also if you have the same faith.
- Travel limitations
If your partner hates travelling, and you love to travel, then expect that travelling will be harder for you. Or if both you love to travel but you have kids, then you need to consider that you’ll be bringing them with you.
- Privileges to study
There will be a hindrance if you want to study after marriage. You need to settle it with your partner and if he/she will approve it, your partner will work harder for him/her to pay for your expenses.
- Decision making
Accept the fact that you should always consider your partner as another decision maker in your life. Whether you like it or not you need to cooperate to make your relationship work.